It’s interesting how our priorities change when we’re in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s. Mary Kay Ash stated it so well:
- From 14 to 40 a woman needs good looks
- From 40 to 60 she needs personality
- And from 60 on I’m here to tell you a woman needs CASH!
All kidding aside, I’m finding that in my 40’s I am eager to work, but I prefer a more relaxed and meaningful nature to my work. I’ve also learned that I have the ability to design my life how I want it to be. I didn’t use to believe that. But now that I love myself more, I’ve practiced manifesting at small levels, moved to bigger levels, and because I’m willing to take responsibility for everything that appears in my life, I have found how to create in a significant way.
The most important thing I’ve learned while on the planet is to embrace where I am. It doesn’t matter that I would like to lose 50 pounds; I still love myself as the person I am today. I don’t want to wish my life away or lose precious minutes griping about how I look. When I’m ready to change I will, and in the meantime I will do what feels right for my mind, body & spirit. If I feel like going for a walk I do. If I feel like sitting on the couch watching a movie with my honey, I do. If it feels good to play with my dog I do.
Reflecting on the past, or griping about your current weight, finances, friends, family, etc. only for the purpose of complaining or beating yourself up doesn’t serve your highest good. If you’re analyzing to help make positive changes in your life, allow yourself to purge your emotions or have a 5 minutes pity party and then move toward positive change in a productive manner.
Liking yourself, loving yourself, and accepting yourself exactly as you are right now, are powerful messages that influence the types and quality of conversations you have with yourself. Make your mind a powerful point of creation rather than a sadistic haven where you relive past failures. Here’s how you begin to initiate that change:
- Set your intention for how you want to think, feel, and act. I remember in the sixth grade I was very shy. I wanted to be popular and more outgoing. I specifically set my mind to being more of an extrovert that year. I practiced smiling in the mirror. I took a risk and started talking to people. I invited new friends to my house to play. Within six months I had a whole host of new friends. This all happened in the mind of a 12 year old girl. If she can do it, so can you. [Read more…]
Not being authentic is a big problem in dating if you’re attempting to be someone you’re not when looking for the love of your life. Many women are taught in childhood to be pleasers and to cater to their man’s wishes, and often that means we act as the person we think our man would want to be with instead of who we really are when in the courting process of a relationship.
One of the most frequent things I observe when working with clients is their lack of willingness to face the pain and trauma of the one thing that trips them up most when looking for love – their childhood. It’s understandable to a degree since we’re programmed to move toward pleasure and away from pain; however our soul came here for the experience of the contrast of our existence, and to find our way back to peace. The choice to remain mired in the pain of our childhood wounds keeps us stuck. When the pain of staying stuck becomes greater than the pain of pushing through and Healing your Heartaches, you will do the work and change, which will allow you to finally attract the high quality love you’ve been looking for, for so long. 
