Why do women settle for frogs?

Frog PrinceHow many frogs have you kissed in your lifetime?  Mario and I have a joke that it took me kissing over 100 frogs to find him.  There’s nothing wrong with kissing frogs, but why do women stay in mediocre or even abusive relationships?  Why do we settle for so much less than we deserve?

Times are changing but it wasn’t that long ago when women were taught to be subservient to men.  We were expected to cater to a man’s needs in the kitchen, living room, and bedroom.  Even though women have elevated their status in society, this acquiescent behavior extends to the boardroom, even today, as we still aren’t earning equal pay for equal work.

We were also taught not to speak up to our parents; therefore, many of us don’t have a voice in relationships because we are often dating a person who reminds us of one parent or the other. If a man speaks up for himself he’s considered confident.  If a woman asserts her position she’s a Bitch.  Isn’t it interesting however, that many men will not assert themselves in a relationship, but will make the situation so terrible that women’s hands are forced to do the dirty work? Even if a man is making our lives miserable, many of us still stay in the relationship, why is that?

I believe there are many possible reasons we subject ourselves to relationship torture: [Read more…]

Remain True to Yourself

stacyNot being authentic is a big problem in dating if you’re attempting to be someone you’re not when looking for the love of your life.  Many women are taught in childhood to be pleasers and to cater to their man’s wishes, and often that means we act as the person we think our man would want to be with instead of who we really are when in the courting process of a relationship.

Unfortunately, this undermines everything you say you’re looking for, because most people have on their list of qualities that they want someone who’s honest; fun to be with, comfortable in their own skin, etc.  Yet if you’re not being true to yourself and are pretending to be something else, how can you line up with someone who’s being true to themselves?  It just doesn’t add up. [Read more…]

Law of Attraction in Action

As I packed for my workshop in Toronto a day earlier than normal (Mario calls me ‘Last Minute Lucy’), I realized, at 10:00 at night — two days before my flight –that my passport had expired.

Oh no! Now what was I going to do?

I stopped everything (because what’s the point of finishing packing if I can’t get through customs, right?) and went online to see what I could do.

Lo and behold, if I traveled within the next two weeks and had proof (which I did), I could go to to the Department of State’s Boston office because they have the authority to prepare Passports on site.

Yes!

They also allowed me to use their 24-hour appointment scheduling service to schedule my appointment. So I did. The next available appointment was 8:30 the next morning.

Woo Hoo!

I had all the documentation I needed, except I didn’t have any passport photos. I called CVS and Walgreens and their photo departments closed at 10pm. I was too late. I looked online for a 24-hour passport photo service, with no luck. [Read more…]

Be the Love you are Looking for

RosesObviously you survived another Valentine’s Day. Are you feeling lonely because you didn’t have anyone to share it with? Do you wish you could have received flowers like all your other lucky girlfriends? Or would you just be happy to find your man no matter what he ended up doing for you on V-Day?

I know how you’re feeling because I was there too. Often, I would pick up flowers for myself to help me feel good, so I could simply enjoy their beauty. I always bought exactly what I wanted and imagined it was my man giving them to me.

Mario didn’t buy me flowers this Valentine’s Day, but I’m ok with that because he did make me breakfast in bed. He told me told me that any day could be Valentine’s Day and we could celebrate any time and any way that we wanted. I told him that every day is Valentine’s Day with him because I never know when he’s going to surprise me. [Read more…]

Quote of Month – January 2012

The degree to which you love yourself is the degree to which you will attract, create, conjure, and manifest another person loving you.
~ Mama Gena