Not being authentic is a big problem in dating if you’re attempting to be someone you’re not when looking for the love of your life.  Many women are taught in childhood to be pleasers and to cater to their man’s wishes, and often that means we act as the person we think our man would want to be with instead of who we really are when in the courting process of a relationship.

Unfortunately, this undermines everything you say you’re looking for, because most people have on their list of qualities that they want someone who’s honest; fun to be with, comfortable in their own skin, etc.  Yet if you’re not being true to yourself and are pretending to be something else, how can you line up with someone who’s being true to themselves?  It just doesn’t add up. [Read more…]