It’s interesting how our priorities change when we’re in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s. Mary Kay Ash stated it so well:
- From 14 to 40 a woman needs good looks
- From 40 to 60 she needs personality
- And from 60 on I’m here to tell you a woman needs CASH!
All kidding aside, I’m finding that in my 40’s I am eager to work, but I prefer a more relaxed and meaningful nature to my work. I’ve also learned that I have the ability to design my life how I want it to be. I didn’t use to believe that. But now that I love myself more, I’ve practiced manifesting at small levels, moved to bigger levels, and because I’m willing to take responsibility for everything that appears in my life, I have found how to create in a significant way.
The most important thing I’ve learned while on the planet is to embrace where I am. It doesn’t matter that I would like to lose 50 pounds; I still love myself as the person I am today. I don’t want to wish my life away or lose precious minutes griping about how I look. When I’m ready to change I will, and in the meantime I will do what feels right for my mind, body & spirit. If I feel like going for a walk I do. If I feel like sitting on the couch watching a movie with my honey, I do. If it feels good to play with my dog I do.
Reflecting on the past, or griping about your current weight, finances, friends, family, etc. only for the purpose of complaining or beating yourself up doesn’t serve your highest good. If you’re analyzing to help make positive changes in your life, allow yourself to purge your emotions or have a 5 minutes pity party and then move toward positive change in a productive manner.
Liking yourself, loving yourself, and accepting yourself exactly as you are right now, are powerful messages that influence the types and quality of conversations you have with yourself. Make your mind a powerful point of creation rather than a sadistic haven where you relive past failures. Here’s how you begin to initiate that change:
- Set your intention for how you want to think, feel, and act. I remember in the sixth grade I was very shy. I wanted to be popular and more outgoing. I specifically set my mind to being more of an extrovert that year. I practiced smiling in the mirror. I took a risk and started talking to people. I invited new friends to my house to play. Within six months I had a whole host of new friends. This all happened in the mind of a 12 year old girl. If she can do it, so can you. [Read more…]
I recently had a coaching call with one of my clients, Doris, from the UK who was feeling a bit remorseful about having to spend another birthday alone. (By the way, if you’re reading this – Happy Birthday!) She desperately wanted to meet her man and have him take her out to a lovely dinner – where they would dress up, go to a nice place, and she could feel the romantic connection with her life partner on her special day.
